PREQUEL - I ( THE RED SQUARE STREETS )

It was a night immersed in the stars.. The Moon was seemingly beige.. when she looked it through the glasses of the champagne tower in front of her.

The clapping & cheering pulled her out of the immersion.. immersion into the enthralling beauty of that night.

Finally, she remembered, where she was. She too clapped to adjust in time & manner.. with a smile.. an innocent but a forced one.
She saw him coming. He came & gestured towards the dance floor. She continued.. with that smile..
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After quarter of an hour.. she excused herself.
She moved towards the bar counter & asked for plain water. She took a few sips.. before turning around to look at him on the dance floor, where he continued dancing with all his wits & charm.
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With a 'lonely smile' on her face, she made her way out of that splendiferous night.
After taking only a few steps in the corridor following downstairs, she heard a gentle utterance of the word "Mademoiselle!" in a male voice filled with awe.. from behind. She turned & encountered a silhouetted figure of a man with *his arms stretched towards her to pass over her clutch-bag. Taking the bag she realized that she had left it on the counter.

Before that she could take a step forward to thank *him, face-to-face, *he left.
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Walking towards her car.. she was thinking of the scar, she noticed on the hand that passed her bag.
 
                ..... To be continued in PREQUEL -II ( THE RED SQUARE STREETS )

MENTOR, MEDIA & MESS

Gone are the days where the word 'Teacher' used to remind us of an old, geeky - personality with books in one hand and & a stick in the other. Particularly those 'drilling stares'.. 😁

New - age teachers are young achievers of their times. They're composed of new pedagogical techniques, sharp minds, competency, divergent thinking, flexible understanding & analyzing approaches.

Most of them believe in having a friendly atmosphere, beyond the conventional norms of strictness & rigidity. They're well -versed in the act of balancing knowledge with fun, discipline with spontaneity & competency with capacity.

And a new trend of this era's teacher-student relationship sees befriending themselves on social media. Well, there are simple as well as not-so-simple rules of this relationship to abide by; especially for adult students - those who express their gratitude by becoming too pally with their teachers.
Most of the teachers then find it difficult to draw the line,with such over - friendly student of theirs.
While some teachers feel that social media helps to connect with their otherwise reclusive students, diminishing the line of hesitance, others say, it also demean the line of respect & regard, with students entering into their personal sphere.

The platform should be used to share study- related content & to most extent, the issues of life in which students need the right advice.
Obviously, there are other ways to express your love for your teacher, than writing cheesy & personal comments on every picture they upload.

Both teacher & student need to maintain the integrity & purpose of this bond in every possible situation.

P.S. "HAPPY TEACHERS' DAY"

"Come to think of it ...."

It is, while reading about Kohlberg's Theory & Piaget's Ideas of Moral Development & Various stages of Emotional Development in humans that I had a sort of brainstorm & decided to write this post.

MORAL DEVELOPMENT

It was interesting to find out that posing moral dilemmas on humans, can result in better understanding of their personalities. It is because solving moral dilemmas involves trying to coordinate with one's conflicting needs & motives (including the laws of one's culture + morality of one's peers + parents' & teachers' guidelines + self interest).
Our Moral Decision Making benefits from practice & maturity & yes :) also from the 'specific' instructions, we get from our elders, on how to generalize those to "life".

EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT

Oscar Wilde once said, " The advantage of the emotions is that they lead us astray. "
And what I feel, going astray is the only way to get our worlds. (A bit philosophical, I know ;-D)
One more philosophy I remember, says, "The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a comedy to those who think."
Emotions play an important role in life. Our emotional expressions change with the dimensions of emotions when we grow towards maturity. All of us have different patterns of emotional development & are affected by various factors such as our health, intellectual levels, environment etc.

There are these basic emotions like :-
• Happy :-)
• Excited :-D
• Tender :-l
• Scared :-o
• Angry :-(
• Sad :-/

And yes, not to forget, differences of emotional expressions are vehemently found between Girls & Boys. Girls often dissolve into tears or temper outbursts while Boys express their annoyance & anxiety by being sullen & moody.
But even these emotional development & differences in men & women have some purposes.
-Men like excitement, challenges, change, uncertainty..While Women like predictability, safety, continuity, roots & relationship - stability.
-She typically cares more than he, about details of almost everything.
-She tempers his impulsiveness & foolish tendencies while he nudges her out of apathy & excessive caution.
-She expresses confidence in her man when he feels to be needed.
-She appreciate little & big things his man does, while he does & wants best for her.

And these very contrasting inclinations work to a couples' best advantage.

Primary emotional needs of She includes Caring, Understanding & Respect. While He needs Space, Support & Appreciation for his deeds.

Even their stress-coping-techniques are different from each other as He reduces stress by forgetting about problems while She prefers talking about the problem to reduce stress.

Here's the formula :-)

1)Being aware of each others' (needs + emotions) = helps in the prosperity of relationship;

whereas,

2)(lack of awareness) + (lack of communication) = leads to Emotional Resentment.

Think!

Which formula are you applying?

P.S. (1)Thoughts and ideas expressed in this blog post are illustrative and not exhaustive.
    
         (2) Neither of He or She is superior but yes, each is certainly unique :)

We All Actually never understood Einstein's Theory Of Relativity

According to Google, Albert Einstein, in his theory of special relativity, determined
that the laws of physics are the same for all non-accelerating observers, and he showed that the speed of light within a vacuum is the same no matter the speed at which an observer travels.

In a popular science magazine, I read about the ABC of this 'gobbledygook' an article on the Gravity Waves, explained by T R GOPALAKRISHNAN & concluded that the principles of the theory are actually quite easy to understand by learning about gravitational waves in just four simple steps.
I am sharing the superficial elements of the article as what I understood :

1) THE CONCEPT OF SPACE-TIME

-According to Newton, gravity was a force- that a body attracts another body over a distance. But Einstein said that there could be a better explanation for gravity.

-Einstein actually took the concepts of SPACE & TIME (which are related) & wove them together in a single idea, called Space-time.

-Thinking of space-time as fabric, and the universe as a trampoline, Einstein's theory says space-time can be curved, & what we feel as 'gravity' is the "effect" of that curvature.

2) SPACE-TIME & GRAVITY

-Now imagine what would happen to the trampoline, if we place a huge solid Gold ball over it?

-Yes, obviously.. the trampoline would sink & cause a curvature.

-Now, suppose if we drop another solid Silver ball, smaller in size, on the periphery of the trampoline.. what would happen?

-Undoubtedly, it'd roll down towards the huge Gold ball.

-So, the conclusion here is, the earth is the Gold ball, the moon is the silver ball & the curvature or gravity you can say, is what attracts the moon to earth.

-The bigger the mass of an object, the deeper the curvature it causes.

3) GRAVITY & GEODESICS

-In case of trampoline, the silver ball would roll down to the huge gold ball in a straight line. But it doesn't happen so in the real world.

-Throw a ball into the air, & it makes a parabola in space. Similarly, a celestial body follows a path called geodesic (the equivalent of a straight line in the four-dimensional space-time).

-The moon also orbits the earth in a geodesic.

4) GRAVITY AS WAVES

-Firstly, we need to know what are gravitational waves?

-Let's suppose two heavy iron balls circling each other in the trampoline. Their movement causes ripples in the fabric, which spread outward.
In space-time, such ripples are called gravitational waves.

- When dense bodies such as neutron stars & black holes orbit around each other, the ripples in space-time resemble that of the surface of an agitated pond.

-The denser the objects, the more powerful the waves they generate.
-The faster the objects move, the more waves they produce.
-And the waves travel at the speed of light.

-Einstein's Point Of View :

-What at LIGO (Laser Interferometer Gravitational-wave Observatory) detected was the gravitational waves produced by the circling-around & subsequent collision of two black holes, which were 29 & 36 times the mass of the sun.

-The collision resulted in a bigger black hole, which was 62 times the mass of the sun.

-But, 29+36=65. The new black hole had a solar mass of 62. So, here the question arises where did the mass equivalent of three suns go?

-I was unable to guess the answer properly, but my guess was somewhere close to the explanation.
-Wave is a form of energy, and energy is a form of matter. E= mc^2, which means the mass equivalent of three suns went as energy of the gravitational waves.

-There's you have just thought like Einstein.   :-)

-But....
-Scientists found that it does not happen so.
-Reason- An unknown energy was deforming the tunnels, changing their length ever so slightly. As a result, the distance travelled by the beams varied, and they were not reaching the beam splitter at the same time.
Bingo, said the scientists as they had finally caught a gravitational wave.

-Thanks to the wave's effect, the lasers were recombining in such a way that it produced a measurable signal at the light detector.
-What I found interesting was - When converted to an audible sound, the waves made an unmistakable 'chirp', the loudness of which helped scientists make a rough estimate of the age of the waves.
In this case, (to my amaze) 1.3 billion years!!

P.S. - Now, I can say that Albert Einstein's theory of Relativity is not completely beyond my brain. :-)

Making judgements & Being Judgemental are two different things my dear !

I'm writing this blog post based on a technical point of view, rather than abstract thinking (as unlike most of my previous ones.)
But also, I've not gone for a literature review kind of thing. It's still a piece of my thought process just including a bit of technicalities.
Okay.. Now if you pay attention it's actually a loaded question :
What is the difference between making judgements & being a judgmental person?
Everyone make judgements all the time so
why are only certain people accused of being judgmental?
Well.. answer to this question can be easily obtained from a dictionary. Yeah!
If we look up the word judgmental in the dictionary there are generally two meanings :
1)One has to do with making judgments; so, yes, at a basic level, making judgments is being judgmental :-)
2) The other meaning of judgmental has to do with being 'overly critical' in an unhelpful way :-(
It is when we make judgments in ways that have harmful or negative consequences that we are being judgmental in ways that are best to avoid.

Okay.. Now moving forward.. I'll try to elucidate the process & associated things behind this, adopting a statistical approach. (My newfound attitude! ;-))

•In any kind of scientific investigation or survey sort of things, a small portion (sample) of the entire targeted population is used for study. And on the basis of the information contained in the sample, we draw out conclusions about the population & that's how generalisations originate.
Best example of its kind: Conducting exit polls to predict the election results.
This procedure can also be used to predict about the events, which are yet to occur, on the basis of past events. This is very much the concept of Inferential Statistics; closely tied to the logic of hypothesis testing.

•In hypothesis testing, we have a particular value in mind.
(Now it seems that the post is going abstruse, let's take an example to understand this concept.)
- Particular value, here, can be understood as our preconceived notions about a person (He always does so, he's this way only) ,
thing (Glasses <3 are meant to be broken) ,
situation (First job interview: Fear or not to Fear? etc.)
We 'Homo sapiens' tend to hypothesize that this value "characterise" the population of observations.

Actually, what we are supposed to do :

•In estimation, no particular population value need to be stated.
-(We actually don't require to view everybody with the same frame of mind. We need to understand that everyone is different & unique in their own ways & so needed our perspective to be: WIDE)

Rather, we need to question is, what is the population value? (What all there is in this being, that makes me consider him twice? What are his strengths, his potential, his source of energy, his VALUE?)

•Hypothesis testing is one of the important areas of our analyses, decision -making process that we come across in our day-to-day situations. (Most often in judging our surroundings) & then taking decisions or resolutions to change ourselves either by adopting or withdrawing from the situation. (Ah! we the complex beings!!)

How This Is Done?

• Firstly, we define our hypothesis as a statement, which may or may not be true about our target (whosoever going to be judged by us).
Here, it could be a possibility that the probability distribution of our assumption that we wish to validate, is not in a convincing ratio. ( For e.g., Not all men are impassive. Mind it! )
Most of the times, our experiences are gained from 2-3 persons (random samples, you can say), instead of entire population. And we draw our conclusions regarding this world, (a giant word in itself, indeed!). That's the very thing which should not be done. AT ALL!!
•Before drawing inferences about the entire population (here, world) it should always be kept in mind that the observed results might have come due to chance factor .(Let's suppose your boss is the typical stricter among the lot, but this can merely be a chance factor that you're the only one chosen to survive him! bad luck though ;-))  
So, One of the very precautionary thing here, is that the Chance Factor needs to be ruled out in order to have a balanced perspective towards this world.

•Now for avoiding these chance factors,  probability of chance occurrence of the observed results need to be examined.

This can be done by examining :
1) Null Hypothesis
2) Alternative Hypothesis

Null hypothesis is that we assume that the two samples (with or without having chance factor) came from the same population.

While, Alternative hypothesis is counter proposition to Null hypothesis; which assumes that the two samples belong to two different populations.

•Now, in these..the alternative hypothesis is not directly tested, rather its acceptance or rejection is determined by the rejection or retention of the other one. (The Null Hypothesis)
And all this acceptance & Rejection game is mostly played in the dimensions of probability.
-If the probability value of our assumption being correct is quite high, & observed results are not significant. NULL HYPOTHESIS IS ACCEPTED. Or otherwise REJECTED.

P.S.- I've taken my best efforts to blend  layman understanding with statistical approach. Even then, if it fails to strike  the chords of your brain wires, I'd suggest you to reread later.
May the incubation effect work!

Why You Are The Way You Are

Before continuing with my interest , I want to highlight that the title of this blog post has already been subtitled in a famous book The Birth Order Book , a 1982
non-fiction book by Dr. Kevin Leman on Birth Order and its potential influence on Personality and Development. As per my interests, I found this book worth holding out till the end.
The Idea of writing this blog post came to me while reading the magnificent history of Personality Assessment. I believe, the very first objective of studying psychology that comes to a naive mind is to understand the ways in which people behave & why they behave so. They are of immediate interest to family, friends & neighbours, for whom the behaviour of a certain person is likely to have direct consequence.
Here, via this post I aim to generalize a small concept of Personality Assessment & Related Fields in a lucid manner to the masses.
••In regard to personality tests, one finds that the first name is of Greek Physician Hippocrates. He theorised that everyone has four fluids (The Humoural Theory) : Blood, Phlegm (respiratory secretions), Yellow bile & Black bile. Another Greek Physician pointed out that based on these body fluids, there are four 'temperaments', viz., Sanguine, Phlegm, Choleric & Melancholic respectively.
-The Sanguine person is supposed to be warm, optimistic & confident.
-The Phlegmatic body brings about a temperament which is sluggish, apathetic & indifferent.
- The Choleric body consists of violence, anger & aggression.
-The Melancholic body includes sadness, depression & melancholy.
••Different from the mainstream, then in 1958, based on the famous Jung's theory psychologists developed types of personality which were to be decided based on the four questions, as given below :
1) Preferred source of your energy? (Internal or External)
2) Preferred source of perception? (Senses or Intuition)
3) Preferred decision making system? (On Logics or Feelings)
4) Preferred life style? (Ordered or Adaptable)
••One more interesting theory that assumed that human personality is a reflection of physical body is Somatotype theory. This theory divides people into three major types:
a) The Ectomorph (who is thin & fragile)
b) The Mesomorph (who is powerful & muscular)
c) The Endomorph (who is round, soft and fat).
As most individuals have a combination of these three body types, the personality characteristics are determined by the relative proportions of the body type factors in their individual somatotype. [somato- of or relating to the human or animal body.]
This is just a bit of fascination. There are much more rich & interesting facts regarding Assessment of Personality deepening one's attraction towards psychology.

THE RED SQUARE STREETS

"Hey! Stop"
"I was calling you so hard.... you just didn't listen ! .... What's wrong with you ?"
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"Nothing ! .... I just didn't pay attention"

He then walked away. His ignorance allowed just this much to come out from inside him.
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She was still standing at the same place.... puzzled!
She saw him going away, till his persona shrunk to the size of 'dew'.... outside as well as inside her !
Her eyes experienced a different hue all around her. For a second, she almost gone blank.... trying to sync with the coldness (with which he left) & the warmth (she always possessed).
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The clock struck sharply.. marking the hour, from the clock tower behind her, bringing her into consciousness.
After a long period of numbness.. finally tears ran down her cheeks. The warmth of tears helped her regain sensitivity.
She didn't even once.. try to wipe them out as.. every falling tear was taking away her sorrow with it.
And that's what she really wanted then.
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She made her hands move in search of her phone. Taking it out.. she hurriedly typed something & without a delay her thumb pressed the send button.
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Her message was received. But this time.. to 'whom' she really wanted to.
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A few minutes after.... she was with *him. She really was .... with *him.
This time she stretched her hand towards *him. *He held it with the same gentleness as *he always wanted to. She gave *him *his life & her world.. & with a loving heart.... *he promised to take utmost care of it.
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With smiles on their faces, they both walked on. They walked on.... the streets of Red Square, Moscow.
The streets .... that witnessed the most substantial turn of her life.
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She never looked back. And she will never forget the Red Square streets.. as that day those streets walked with her too.

P.S. -• He & *He were two different beings.
        -•  The famous 'Saviour tower' is the clock tower mentioned in this fictional composition.
       

Grown Up Studying Computer Memory? Let's Check Out Human Memory !

•• Our ability to learn & to create new memories is fundamental to our very existence; we rely 'heavily' on memory to engage in almost all effective actions.
(Even to provide us with a personal identity & sense of self).

••What's more interesting in case of humans is that.... like everything, we tend to take our memory for granted. And the only time most of us pay attention to our memory is - When it fails! (अरे! ये मैं कैसे भूल गया?/मुझे आजकल कुछ याद नहीं रहता !/मुझे भूलने की बीमारी हो गयी है।/मैं चीज़ें रख के भूल जाता हूँ....)- Applicable to both the sexes equally :-D

••Human Memory is basically divided into three storage systems:
1. Sensory Memory
2. Short-term Memory (STM)
3. Long-term Memory (LTM)

••1) Sensory Memory - Based on 'Transduction of energy' (conversion into electrical signals). Our Environment makes available, a variety of information in terms of light, sound, smell, heat, cold, etc. But the brain only understands electrical stimulation. So, our body has special sensory receptor cells that convert these varieties into something that the brain can understand.
The memory created here is very short & lasts hardly for about a few seconds. In 90% of cases we miss it but.. (Encountering faces while walking in a crowd). We do pay attention to it if it has an interesting feature..(a beautiful lady). OR if it activates a known pattern..(that boy looked like my friend).

••2) STM - Only a limited amount of information is transferred from sensory memory to STM. Working memory or conscious memory is the major part of it & relates to what we are thinking about at any given moment in time. We keep it active until it is put to use..(a phone no. we repeat to ourselves until we dial it properly on the phone).

••3) LTM - Sort of a permanent storage. Information is stored on the basis of meaning & importance..(People we really mean & give importance & priority take shelter in our LTM & thus hard to forget at times).
The knowledge we store in LTM affects our perceptions of the world..
LTM works through top-down processing; our prior knowledge affects how we perceive sensory information. Our expectations regarding a particular sensory experience influence how we interpret it. That's how we develop 'bias'.

••In my opinion studying about human memory is far more interesting than learning the exact capacities of computer memory.... Bits & Bytes !! [That's how we develop 'bias' :-) ]

A 'SOCIABLE' CONFUSION

Occasionally, I strongly feel the need of having a formal GUIDELINE on HOW TO USE DIFFERENT SOCIAL PLATFORMS DIFFERENTLY.

What i feel is that despite trying so hard to maintain the uniqueness, various social sites end up providing just with the facilities of following, liking, sharing....Isn't it?

Though i don't deny the existence of social sites, where 'I' understand the purpose of using them.... like YouTube, Skype, Twitter (esp. as it has word limits) etc.

But still i feel a bit confused regarding the use & the type of networking associated with some of the networking platforms. (Not in a mood to directly mention their names)
But from a layman's & a fresher's point of view i would like to argue regarding the same.... no matter how people are going to measure my viewpoint on their own standard-thinking scales.... HAHAHA

More or less everywhere we find the same agenda....sharing the pictures with taglines or stories 'bout them....
At least there should be a classification like....
FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES
FOR ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES
FOR PERSONAL PURPOSES ......types....

Unless we all end up copying the trends our fellow users adopt to utilise that platform.... with nothing new to learn....

Moreover, i feel having platforms sharing same motive would end up wasting our time .... just in refreshing... each of them one by one....as we find in the present-tense-trends.....

And no doubts we all do like this....nay?

P.S. - The title is a 'sociable' confusion, not a 'social' confusion. Mind it!

ALWAYS ACCEPT, NEVER EXPECT

√ Going through some psychology articles, I came across this beautiful post on "self-acceptance" by psychology student & blogger DANIELL KOEPKE.
Some of the observed & felt excerpts from it are as follows:

• The easiest of all, for human mind is to "feel" uncared, when people are not able to communicate & connect with you in the way you "expect"..

• And the hardest part is to believe that the way other people operate is "not about you"..

• The in between lost truth is that most people are so caught up in their own responsibilities, struggles & anxiety that the thought of asking someone else "how" they're doesn't even cross their mind.

• They're not inherently bad or uncaring, they're just busy & self-focused.

• AND THAT'S PERFECTLY OKAY :)

• It's neither an evidence of any kind of "falling" on your part, nor it makes you unlovable or invisible.

• It "just" means that those people are not very good at looking beyond their own world.

• But the real fact that you- despite the darkness you feel, have the ability to share your love & light with others. And it's a strength.

•Your work is not to "change who you're", It's to "find" people who are able to give you the connection you need.

• Because despite what you feel, YOU'RE NOT TOO MUCH. you're not TOO sensitive or TOO needy.

• You're thoughtful, compassionate & kind. And WITH OR WITHOUT any one's acknowledgment or affection, YOU'RE ENOUGH !!

• KEEP SMILING :)

(तलाश-ओ-तवाज़ुन) My Search Of Balance

The 'Contrast & Balance' questionnaire ....

√ Why I absorb the brightness of the morning? - Because I absorb the darkness of the night too..

√ Why I like the cold summer- night? -Because I like the warmth of the winter -noon..

√ Why I can effortlessly laugh? - Because I have sensed the sadness deep within..

√ Why am I fearless? - Because I have learnt to recognise, illusion from real..

√ Why I feel myself beautiful? - Because I am aware of my flaws..

√ Why I enjoy the melody of the music? -Because I also like the melody of silence!..

I have understood that "Everything in life-
from Happiness to Success exist because their Opposite exist too.."
TAKE ONE AWAY....& THE OTHER LOSES VALUE!!

The Good exists because the Bad exists too..

THIS IS THE VERY THEORY OF YIN & YANG.... you just have to feel the worth as you go along..

ONCE AGAIN "IT'S POLITICAL"

The story of G N SAIBABA

Feeling a different kind of zeal .... different from my conventional one, as today I'm going to give 'liberty of words' to the patriotic me. Expatiately, a concerned-patriotic, who is not restricted just to plaudits for her country, but also feels the
necessity to confront it, at times, needed.
After taking cognizance on media reports, of a 'POLITICALLY AILED' professor of English literature at Delhi University, I felt so brimmed up, with emotions that I found no other 'expedient' to 'aid' him, than to write about him, making his "illicit sufferings" & "atrocious incarceration" known, to as many as I could.
What a deliberate 'satanism', our so-called affable & humane law and order, has shown towards him ..... brutally commendable !!
His role in 'the pictures' was just like any other "Hero" of Indian-cinema, heroic enough, to raise his voice against the wrong & helping the poor (adivasis & lower castes, in this case.)
But, sorry to inform that this drama neither ended 'happily' nor with the salutes & applauses, the hero used to get from his showgoers. Perhaps, because this hero doesn't possess a fab-bod & muscle power, but a WHEEL CHAIR, a PEN & a DETERMINATION instead that disastrously ended-up weighing less.
And on comparisons between 'reel & real' life, the latter one has proven to have more horrible consequences. As the excruciating 'denial' given to the professor in the jail, has the caliber to put on shame, even the worst draconian-acts 'reeled' anywhere .... !!
At last, tuning to my previous one, 'ON MY MIND', the real meanings & connotations associated with 'POLITICS' can be miserably sensed one more time ....!!

TO KNOW THE COMPLETE STORY

A SUBTLE EXIT AND A DEEPENING SILENCE THEREUPON .....

"Who chose the way to exit ?"
"Did I ?"
"Did you ?"
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OR "Did the universe conspire it for us ?"
Well, 'silence' will work efficiently, here also.
In my 'callowly' ways of thinking, I always believed that sharing brings happiness. But according to your 'cognitive' ways, de facto is 'silence', as the best tool .... anyone can use, against anyone (especially in 'cardiac' matters).
As, it never unveils your vulnerabilities.
When analyzed on the application part, it's the best, actually.
"IT'S THERE NOW, IT WON'T BE THERE TOMORROW".....As It's become ephemeral for you now. Then, what's the need to show
it? To show it to an 'uninvited person'.... irrespective of your 'know-how' & 'strangeness' towards her.
It's always been your best of thoughts, "WHO CARES?"....
Yes! really, truly, nobody cares. And if they came to know that you care (for them), they will walk all over you ... In fact, they'll enjoy this very fact, at their "ludicrously humour best", along with faking their 'deceptive care' on your face, to get the continuous supply of care from your side.
Well, it may not be the case, but approximately, how far would it go from the aforementioned 'perceived' one? At least, from the perspective of "the one" who has experienced it 'non-uniformly', every now-and-then.
But yes, all of it can be branched-out to avoid any ramifications further ... by "Making a subtle exit, no matter....
what the silences have, in store for you... thereafter!" :)

A BEGINNER'S DILEMMA

Yes.... I often find myself immersed.... in a beginner's dilemma. So, I thought it would be interesting to pen it down too. :)
In MY opinion, one doesn't need 'spectacular surroundings of nature' or 'lap of hills' to begin with.... Ideas can come, even from an ordinary place, like your room. They do come to me at least. :)

•The journey commences :-
- FROM looking the mirror on my left, TO shifting away my gaze through the reflection of the painting inside, actually on my right.
- FROM looking the snapshot 'engraved' in the shiny golden frame, inside the showcase, straight in front of me, TO taking away my gaze (along with my head) towards the ceiling, stopping at the angle of 135° (probably !), tilting my head backwards.
-FROM shrinking my eyes, in thoughts, when i feel overflowed with too many ideas & pictures simultaneously, TO gently holding my face in my palms, when I feel my head, totally junk- cleaned (with no running 'apps' behind), as clear as a "BLANK CANVAS".
And a 'BLANK CANVAS' depicts an ocean of opportunities. So, from here, I find myself prepared enough to make the tip of my
pen, touch the 'blankness' of the paper.
Then, I BEGIN.... :)

AN INDELIBLE ENDEAVOR : MY STORY

All-inclusives were advancing routinely. The so-called 'change' being 'constant' marked a new facet of life. I acclimatized myself to a new place, new people & new journey. There were new things to learn everyday.... but new experiences were not visible as per my panorama.
A month passed normally. But with the advent of août, my instincts started flashing 'something' .... as if I was a 'clairvoyant' for that time being.
I was feeling 'its' ingress in my 'essence'.
I became able to comprehend 'its' surety to come.
I had even contrived myself, well-before the arrival of this 'subject' .
And that day, in the evening, I read that.... I felt a feeble stretch on my left side of face. The next day I felt 10% more cheerful than usual en route ( I still don't know, & I can't
explain 'why'). But then, an unexpected interruption (a bizzare one) arrived & with a feeling of all-enthusiasm drained-up.... I
came back. It was 1st of août.
Then again, a week passed ordinarily. And exactly on the eve of 8th, same things happened, the same way.
This time 'its' advent was sure for the 2nd half. On 8th, the 1st half passed, with me, waiting eagerly, for the 2nd.
Finally, the clock strucked 11:00 in the morning.
And from here onwards, things changed eternally or I can say
INTERMINABLY....:)

A MESMERIZING SEMBLANCE

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Every aspect of her is different ..... in every way!
But 'each' has it ALL. A unique blend of 'Plentitude'.
It leaves me astonished! How could anyone have such a supreme dexterity to transmogrify 'HIS' chef d'eouvre like this??
In order to understand that ..... I feel the need to make myself aware with the canonicals ..... required to connect to 'HIM'.
To understand ..... the approach 'HE' adopted to accomplish her ..... the contrivance 'HE' developed to complete 'HIS'
"masterpiece".
I'll keep on trying ....:)

"AN UNPARALLELED BOND"

I still remember....her exquisite advent....as an archangel in my life!....exhilarating eyes, an elegant face....as like nature has epitomized her as a symbol of beauty ....an inclusion of entirety!

Ohh! her hitherto sweet demeanor! ....fully credulous...
I find myself as an incessant admirer of her. She enkindles me every second.

Today, there was a significant juncture of her life!
As always ....I resisted.... denying all my passion!.. masking truth behind my levity....
But! there was something in the Zephyr today .... that made me come out of my zone de confort....
I waited ...waited long to encounter the repercussions.....
Few minutes later, I came out of my confabulation..
I finally encountered....
I felt the extrication....ingrained!
That moment was really an elixir of my life!
I finally acquired that....
I MADE HER SMILE :)
P.S. -Purposely incognitus.

MY g+ COLLECTIONS

√ "THE 16PF"
https://plus.google.com/107664200673726863906/posts/1W66BWGoSSN

√ "ILLUSIONS OF VISUAL PERCEPTION"   https://plus.google.com/107664200673726863906/posts/TiXB7DqmF54

'A BOLD IMMEDIATE ACTION' - Reaction to a real risk of danger.

"DEFUNCT IT"

-Starting life anew is one of the greatest challenges of the human mind. Because there's always a disenchantment associated despite achieving material comforts.

"CONFRONTATIONS" - Actually, are not that bad, as they sound initially or during our initial resistance to them. All we need, is just a little patience & courage to give them a try!

Each one of us, at some point of time, confront - 'confrontations' in its various forms. Be it confronting your failures, your believes, your expectations, your disappointments or the bigger ones like confronting your inner fears, or even yourself. It becomes even more necessary when you want to get out of the 'social pressure' of behaving 'sophisticatedly'.

You know....there exists, a RED (No need to mention, the color of danger) - COLORED BUTTON, familiar, yet very unfamiliar to us, which most of us procrastinate to press; despite knowing that it needs to be done one day.

And all it takes, is just a 'MOMENT' which can be defined as the moment generated, out of ignorance, rejection, hyperactivity, introspection & sometimes even out of escapism, depending on the kind of reality/ situation, you come across & on the 'Signature Strengths' you own.

Then it is concluded by a formal 'Dictum' from inside echoing "LET IT GO".
It can also be perceived as the final stage 'A' of the psychiatrist 'Kübler-Ross's Model' or well- known as the '5 stages of grief' - DABDA expanded on as:-
D - Denial
A - Anger
B - Bargaining
D - Depression
A - Acceptance
[About which, I came to know from an intellectual & close friend of mine:)]

So, the aforementioned, final stage 'A' is Acceptance, leading to a sort of 'M.R' or 'Mental Resilience' proving the fact that 'M.R' is neither that hard to obtain as it sounds, nor it is inherited, but is attainable with an effective series of efforts.

After it, comes the stage of 'LOVING YOURSELF' :)

And yes, it's not always like "abstracting or decluttering".... It can also be like "keeping up with harmony, respect & care". It's more relaxing, believe me :)

LIFE IS EITHER A GREAT ADVENTURE OR NOTHING.... worth said.

"Elixa and Ivan"

A moment of impromptu behaviour .... followed by a verdict of sudden 'inapplicable' halt by the side of Elixa.

Though she understands Ivan's fettle, his incumbency, his liabilities, his milieu, his clay ....or say minutely everything 'bout him.... But was in dominion of her self-generated (or more appropriately), 'self-seeking' chimera.... miles away from reality....

A day-long thought process, finally agreed to a concoction that can be presumed a near form of 'escapism' by most.
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The so-called 'decision' lasted for about a week, involving several 'propensity of receptiveness'. At last, it ended. Ended on the commencement, of a proved mischance for many. But a proved 'incentive' too, on part of Elixa, to initiate once again, as always before.
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Ivan's words depicted his restlessness, in his gesture, which he always wanted to hide from her, but was deciphered by Elixa.
Despite, perceiving Ivan's curiosity, she limited herself only in few words.
Probably, this week-long moratorium had brought a tranquility, to her soul, making her a bit complacent.
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Implying this moratorium as a proven benefit to herself, she started all over again with an increasing chic each day....
BUT, what if she encounters, the same delusion once more??

•The more deep, the affliction is.....
The more inexplicit, my creations become....